The 6 Best Tips For Socializing When You’re Sober

Dara Laine Murray
5 min readJan 30, 2023

You may think that maintaining sobriety means having no social life, but that’s not true. You can still have friends and enjoy yourself without drinking. It’s just about being smart about it.

Here are some tips for having a successful night out with your friends who are sober, as well as ways to help keep yourself from slipping into old habits:

The 6 Best Tips For Socializing When You’re Sober
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Familiarize yourself with your triggers

First, familiarize yourself with your triggers. Chances are, you don’t know what they are, especially if you’re new to your alcohol-free life. We all have things that make us feel uncomfortable (or even frightened) when we see or experience them. So the first step is to get an idea of what those triggers are for you. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

  • What do I do when I have a trigger?
  • How can I avoid triggering myself?
  • How can I handle my own triggers if they happen anyway?

If you know what your triggers are, then it’s easy to avoid them. If you don’t, then start by looking at your past behavior and trying to figure out what makes you feel anxious or afraid.

For example, if you’re triggered by being with a group of people and feel that they’re talking about you instead…

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Dara Laine Murray
Dara Laine Murray

Written by Dara Laine Murray

Multi-passionate sobriety writer on Medium. Day job: Director of Research at a nonprofit. Stories = sober + stats. Editor: https://medium.com/modern-sobriety

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