Make Yourself Feel Better: 13 Helpful Things I’ve Learned About Sobriety

Dara Laine Murray
8 min readMar 13

I have been sober for three years now. And while sobriety has been a blessing, it hasn’t always been easy. I’ve learned a lot of things along the way that have helped me stay on the path to recovery, but there isn’t a magic pill!

If you’re struggling with addiction or know someone who is, these are some things that might help:

Make Yourself Feel Better: 13 Helpful Things I’ve Learned About Sobriety
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1. You’re not alone.

There are millions of people in the world who struggle with addiction, but there’s also a lot of support and help available if you reach out for it. There are people who have been through what you’re going through and came out on the other side stronger than ever before. They can share their stories with you and help guide your journey as well!

2. There isn’t one path to sobriety.

I’ve learned that there are many ways to get sober and stay sober, but the most important thing is finding what works for you. For some people, it’s AA meetings or counseling; for others, it might be yoga or meditation or a 12-step program like SMART Recovery (which focuses on cognitive behavioral therapy). Whatever your path looks like, just know that there are many options available, and no matter where you start off on this journey—and especially if you take steps backward along the way—you can still reach your destination if you keep going forward with confidence in yourself and others who support you along the way.

3. Let go of the idea that you have to solve all of your problems by yourself.

When you’re sober, there are a lot of things that might feel like they’re out of your control. You can’t control what other people do or say, but you can control how you react to them.

One powerful way to start feeling better is by letting go of the idea that all your problems have to be solved in one day and by yourself. The truth is that no one expects this from you! There are people who can help you with whatever issue(s) arises—friends, family members, and even professionals (therapists). In addition, there are groups dedicated specifically toward helping those struggling with sobriety—they know what it’s like because…

Dara Laine Murray

Multi-passionate sobriety writer on Medium. Day job: Director of Research at a nonprofit. Stories = sober + stats. Editor:

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